Madisgram...Good Posting!Children come first!....If we know they are safe at home...under the supervision of a responsible adult...we can continue on with the moment...if there is any chance that the child really may need its parent...all bets are off for the moment.May you never compromise your fatherly heart for any woman.But,I do have issues where mum always put her men b4 me ...so I am prejudiced.I wouldn't think twice of whether or not to make my boys an important life priority,before my husband if the situation is warranted...neither should you.(all you did was be prepared ,should the child need you) .If she's already that self absorbed...what'll it be like in another year?My 2 cents ~W~