I realised quite young that religion is a shield behind which lies the scum of the earth! ok not everyone behind there is scum but many are. knowing your mum chooses to a partner over her own flesh and blood is really difficult to come to terms with. i know because i had to! but it is achievable, just do not expect an acceptable answer as to why! mine said she chose him over me because she didn't want to grow old alone! Thanks mum! but justice comes to those who wait, I am still waiting but in the mean time i have the knowledge that i am nothing like my family. even in my lowest moments i have not once wanted or needed them in my life. i feel it is better for me to grow old alone than to have scum like my family in my life.
Well done for helping your friend, she will need good friends around her until she finds the strength to realise how damaging her family can be to her health and happiness x