With my last 2 Ts, every time I have mentioned a book, movie, TV or radio show they each said they haven't read/seen/heard it. Or if they read it it's like, "Oh, I think I read that a long time ago but I'm not sure." I get the distinct feeling that they don't want to open up in this way and in each case they wanted me to share my feelings first without sharing their own view(s). Now I kind of feel like I expect it when I mention a show I think, "No, I didn't think you had..." There is the possibility they had seen it, but it's happened enough now that I think its a white lie for my own therapeutic benefit.
...Not sure if that helps.
I hope you are able to work through this soon if it is bothering you...
WePow, from all of your descriptions of your T, it sounds as though he only wants to see you healing and would never consciously do anything to hurt you...