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Originally Posted by lovelygirl
Greetings, everyone! I have been lurking here for a few weeks now and thought it was finally time to say hello. It's been really nice to see how much kindness and support there is from (and between) so many of you. I hope to contribute too!
Anyway, thanks for reading/listening. And feel free to throw in your two cents. Do you ever feel deprived of care/nurturing/support in T, and what do you do about it?
I hope everyone is well tonight--good to be here.  |
Welcome lovelygirl ~ I am glad that you decided to post and join us! As to your question about feeling deprived of care/nurturing/support in therapy, I did go through that a bit. I didn't understand why she didn't comfort me AT ALL when I finally broke down and cried. She just sat there in silence.
I asked her about it, and once we worked through the reasons why she doesn't do that, I am okay (I guess). I am not a very huggy person, but I was taken aback that when I was completely broken in front of her, there was no real response. She did give me
'quiet support', I just did not recognize it at the time.
Changing to no contact between sessions may just be a deal breaker for me. That is super hard! I am sorry that you are going through that. Maybe this is part of the therapy for you? I noticed you have been in therapy for 10 years. Sometimes we don't understand why therapists do things. This may be his nature (boundary), but it may also be in your best interest.
I am guessing here, because I don't know your story. Stay with us so that we can get to know you better and help you more.