((((((((((poetgirl))))))))))

Wow...it sounds like such a movement towards growth and healing. And I think it's awesome that you made the choice to move closer to T. That was brave and good

I control where T sits (ha ha - that sounds funny, but it's true). He will sit on the couch with me, but I almost always have to ask him. We had a huge rupture a couple of summers ago, because I wanted him to sit with me, and I *knew* for sure that he knew that's what I wanted, but he wouldn't offer, and I couldn't get myself to ask. It was hard.

But I like that we have the power to choose. It can feel scary at first, especially when we're not used to having any power, but in the end, I think it's really healing on a deep level.

Thanks for sharing your session with us.