A Close Friend Of Mine Lost Someone a Few Mths Ago, She was A Ex Girlfriend of his, they had been broken up for a while around 8 mths or so when she died suddenly, wasnt a great breakup, And I know i didnt know her but I still think about it and feel terrible, The other Day i lit a Candle for her and if brought up, I tear up, i know it sounds odd since i didnt know her. Its a very long story but its a close guy friend of mine, and we sorta have a history, me and him as sorta being more than friends , never dated but got really close and had feelings. Hes a close friend for many many years , We got close and then he sorta pushed me away, (not his fault though!) and got involved with her, which emotionally was terrible for me, but alot was going on with him, it wasnt intentional , anyway they broke up , he broke up with her, and then 8 mths later she died , from what i dont know, i just know she was depressed, Poor girl! I know he feels bad and it shook him up, question is is normal for me to feel so upset by this, alot of friends would think yes its ok to feel bad but not to this extent since in a sense he left you for her(though thats not exactly what happened, they just dont know everything) I cant explain to anyone why i feel this bad, part of it is she was so young and had her whole life ahead of her , Does anyone have any advice, why i feel this way?