(((((((((((learning1))))))))))

My T has had days where he has been sleepy, or "off" for some other reason...but he always tells me about it, in case I sense something is weird and it affect my therapy.

What concerns me in your post, though, is the fact that his behavior in session (talking about himself, taking the focus off of you) is making you question whether your issues are "serious" and whether therapy can help you. It sounds like it's making you devalue yourself, and maybe question whether therapy, and YOU, are worth it.

You ARE worth it.

Have you tried talking to him about this? Something like "T, I'm worrying that my issues aren't even important enough for us to talk about". Maybe is he uncomfortable with silence and is filling in the gaps...or maybe he just isn't a skilled therapist, and not the right one for you. Or..??? The only way to really find out is to talk openly about it (don't you hate that about therapy?)

If you feel like leaving this T, that is your right. You really aren't responsible for his feelings. Lots of people are nice to me, but that doesn't mean I would pay them to help me with something as important as my mental health. BOTH can be true...he can be a nice person AND he can be the wrong therapist for you, and that is really, truly okay.

Lots of hugs to you.