Since it is just the beginning of the day, I will just forecast my ~do rightness~
I first came to live with my husband, in the house that he built. I wanted to turn it upside down and shake out all the contents and start again. So much stuff from his previous marriage...and relationships...were still around for me to deal with..in part, it was a layer of the formation of current depression. Not the main issue, but certainly connected.
Anywayyyyyyyyyyy...it's been over 3 years now and very little has been done to make our home..OUR HOME((<<don't mean to shout,lol!))) For various reasons...money going towards different things....the woodworking tools...on and on...mercy! I recognize, on my part, I often use the lack of finances, along with other disparaging connections to why our home doesn't look like...OUR HOME!!!!...as a weapon. [sorry about the long sentences] At the crux of this, I do believe I have been more angry about him not wanting the same...we are both heading toward 60 now and I did so want him to desire a "clean slate" if you will. We often make project lists...we have lots of "internal house" things on the list but none are high on the priority "to do"'s. Once again, we had another discussion of things we needed to do..and once again, I yearned to hear him say(without prompting)..."hey, let's decide on a color for the "whateverroom" and paint." As usual...didn't happen, so I did my thing, and brought it up...well dang,, if he didn't start getting real specific with the plan to get paint and take time off and help
And I caught myself feeling guilty..."oh there's so much to do..to buy..etc."
(OK, finally getting to it),TODAY I am going to start prepping the walls ...and he is taking Friday and Monday off to help with painting...wooohooooo!!!!

There are so many good posts here...and ty why for all the inspiration. I don't know "Byzantine" except I see a lot of the posts...and it's funny I almost heard this voice say..."Be happy you mutually converse and have project lists." ok done....blessings all!