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Originally Posted by scrambled mother
I also am in my mid 20's. I belive I have aspergers but because I am A girl and blah,blah,blah...The doc's I've seen.....,we'll lets just say we didnt see eye to eye. I also can not stand to be touched. I wanted to be touched but I would almost jump to a sort of "life or death" mode. I had to resist my instints of jumping away. I have found a man that I can Let touch me and his is aware of the fact that I can only have it when I am ready for that sensation. If he needs to have that closeness for his sake, well then I compromise and bare through it as long as we have a time limit.  and thats okay with him. 10-15 minutes and he's off. (this did take time to do) I have 3 children, and honestly, they are they only people i have ever met in my life that don't bother me at all. Now that the bigger kids are becoming actual people rather than lil babies some stuff they do is starting to get to me, but if needed, the feeling passes.Wierd I know. But all in all, just wanted to say, dont give up, you never know when someone will come along that dosent mind. Try and practice touching people.someone close to you that you trust. a sister,brother,friend, but just have then hold your wrist till you cant take it. Then next time maybe you will last a little longer. Everyday just practice being the way you hope to be |
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! There is hope after all. If you can do it, so can I, right? I spend a lot of time around kids too, I teach middle school and my 6th graders ambush me for hugs...high fives...just crowd around my podium in general...it's ok most of the time too. My instinct though, with men especially, is to back away. Wrist, you say? I will give it a try. You're right about another thing, too--there are a couple people, like my granddad, who I am always ok touching. But I'm coping with OCD, so there's even fewer people who I will eat after, or let eat after me, or shake hands and not immediately want wash my hands for germs. I guess I know they have germs, too, but I love them enough to take a risk?
Does it make you antsy and just itching to jump away when people touch you, or try to hold onto you? Does that ever go away?