Communication is very hard in some relationships. One person could be open while the other may not be. I find that using a notebook and writing to each other in it can be very helpful. It can open up the lines of communication, and feelings can be better said through writing rather than conversations some times.

I too have been cheated on twice, and my only advice to you is to try and put it behind you. Look at your new boyfriend with fresh eyes. I cannot put a pre-judgement on someone because of past experiences. I trust until they give me a reason not to. Seems hard , but otherwise problems arise that shouldn't because of past feelings.

As far as the affection, take what he is giving you and enjoy the fact that he cares about you and is willing to show it. There aren't many men who do. I am one of them. I have been working on affection for a little while now and I am getting better. It is a great thing that you won't have to show him how to be affectionate.