I don't think you can forget your parenst just as much as you can't not have them be a part of you... but you are already your own person, you're not all them. genes only go so far, even if you do have similarities in habits, you still have a lot of power over being your own person. sometimes, these things are a part of a self-fulfilling prophecy, all I'm saying is, don't give up on the fact that you can be your own person. Think of someone who you know well, along w/ their family. I bet you you can list a lot of similarities btwn them and their family but also a lot of differences, right? Trust in who you are now and the fact that you don't have to follow their footsteps, knowing what you want and realizing what's important to you will help you live your life in a way that does not resemble the life of your mother or father.

I know all of this is easier said than done, but there is hope that we won't all 'follow in our parent's footsteps', at least I am hoping so!!!! Even if they would have been the most perfect parents, you still wouldn't be a 100% them, right?