(((ChipmunkGal)) - I'm sorry you're suffering. Sorry to make this short but he's not worth a long post lol. The problem isn't you, it's him. It has nothing to do with you being good enough or her being better. He one messed up dude and if I were you I wouldn't waste any more time and file for divorce. Since you written other threads about his other problems and the way he verbally abuses, it's time to cut your losses. It's not you, it's him.