Hi kteeny, welcome to the site. I hope you are able to find the guidance and support here that may help you with your relationship. I understand how you feel, as you are able to connect with and recognize your mate's attributes despite his troubles, and from his perspective, I'm sure it's wonderful to have someone accept and love him no matter what. I know you wish you could be the one who clears the difficult road ahead for him, but he's got to be the one who initiates that process and do most of the work, and he has to want to do that from the start--there's no forcing him. I say this with the best of intentions, because it's obvious you're a good-hearted person who only wants him to be happy. You may help him along, and offer him support and encouragement should he decide to help himself, but he'll have to get the ball rolling.

I sincerely hope your relationship weathers this potential storm, and you guys make a success of it. Glad you're here. All the best to you.