I think what the men aren't getting is that your being bisexual means that you are attracted to both sexes, not that you want to have sex with both sexes together!

As far as the porn goes...I'm a little older than you (ok 2x your age) so i'm just going to tell you flat out, men watch porn....they just do. they like to look. It's got nothing to do with not liking you, not being attracted to you - it's just a thing guys do....it doesn't make them want to cheat (most of the time) i think it just allows them to get out some fantasies....it's really harmless unless it starts to interfere with daily activity. i'd rather have my husband watch porn than out at a bar where real women could be hitting on him - not that I don't trust him, but the women in porn are fake and actresses - nothing to worry about in my mind anyway.