T and I had already talked about his boundaries around touch. I knew that he used touch in therapy with some clients, I just wanted to be SURE I was NEVER EVER one of them. lol

I think like everything else though, if I wanted touch and he had a boundary that precluded it, it probably would have become HUGE in my head, but quieted down. There are other boundaries in T that have become huge in my head in that way, but that don't bother me at all anymore. I think sometimes it's just a matter of working through whatever it is, figuring out why it's such a big deal, and coming to a place of acceptance. Not the easiest thing, but so possible.