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(JD) · Mar 02, 2011, 11:37 PM

Me thinks you think too much!

Quite a construct regarding reasoning as to why you fall into black and white thinking. Alas! Your very need to have more clarity is what propels your black and white thinking, lacking the ability to be comfortable with a grey answer. Most people with such (black and white) thinking are forced into it by some authority figure who demanded on perfectly accurate, best, results, and not allowing for anything less than that. Nothing of the common phrase, "Good enough for government work" that allows for something that works well enough "to do the job."

My impulse is to declare to you to find those lesser decision areas (shall I have pasta, potato (friend, baked, or steamed) or rice (brown, white, yellow) and rather than making all those choices decide to pick the second one that comes to mind and go with it! Meaning? It doesn't matter so often that you can go with a grey area decision and if you find out you didn't like it you can choose differently next time.

Being comfortable with less than perfection is not an easy task. For many it has everything to do about themselves! It has no lasting reflection upon you, whether you make a perfect decision each time. If image is part of the equation for you (I don't know) then consider being someone admired for being happy with making a decision without laboring over it, and being comfortable with it...knowing it isn't the end of the world and we all get another chance later on.

By the way, the very listing of your goals in such a manner has set you up to black and white thinking again! Think about that!

Be well.