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Originally Posted by treehouse
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What concerns me in your post, though, is the fact that his behavior in session (talking about himself, taking the focus off of you) is making you question whether your issues are "serious" and whether therapy can help you. It sounds like it's making you devalue yourself, and maybe question whether therapy, and YOU, are worth it.
You ARE worth it.
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Originally Posted by treehouse
Have you tried talking to him about this? Something like "T, I'm worrying that my issues aren't even important enough for us to talk about". Maybe is he uncomfortable with silence and is filling in the gaps...or maybe he just isn't a skilled therapist, and not the right one for you. Or..??? The only way to really find out is to talk openly about it (don't you hate that about therapy?)
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As far as I got with talking to him about it was telling him that I want to initiate the topics we talk about, which he supported. I also interrupt him a lot, or at least it feels like a lot to me. I think both of your suggestions might be true, that he might be uncomfortable with silence and that he might not be that skilled with some populations (he works with court mandated clients a lot, and I get a sense he's good with them.)
I appreciate your thoughtful post. It's tricky to figure out what's the line between where I want to take responsibility to tell him how to help me, and where that will feel like I'm trying to teach him skills I think other t's I've been to have (which I don't think I can do).
I'm remembering some of your posts where you write about something like figuring out what will help
with your t. That seems really ideal. My t's qualities of being genuine and nice make it easier to seem like I could say things like what you suggested. But it still feels like I'd be trying to teach him the skills I've experienced some t's have. I don't know if it's a good trade off.
I'm still leaning toward trying with the other t again atm.
thank you again.