I am getting rather comfortable talking about sex with my therapist. I mean, once that can of worms is opened, it gets a lot easier. Since I has those issues in my marriage, we seem to talk about it every single session! I would like to ask her some questions like she asks me: "How often are you having sex? Is it satifsying for you? Do you feel that your needs are being met? Is there something you haven't tried that you are considering thinking about doing? How does your husband feel about making changes?"

I doubt she would answer any of them, but I sure have thought about it. She just says that sex is part of a healthy marriage and when it is not happening, the marriage is more than likely struggling. Both parties need to come together and figure out what happened and how this relationship can be repaired.

My situation is different from most. With Sam being a quadriplegic, having sex can be very challenging. My therapist can be quite blunt at times. She asked me, "Are you just wanting a piece of meat or is having a real intimate connection with your husband what you are longing for?"

I just about fell out of my chair when she said that! Now it seems funny that she would be so blunt, but it sure took me by surprise when those words came out of her month!

Actually talking about sex can be fun with your therapist if you are comfortable with him/her.