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Originally Posted by ChipmunkGal
oh Lynn <<<hugs>>>> I had no idea that you were in this type of situation. I know you are so strong and you have given us such great comfort and advice.  I hope he is not violent and assuming he is insulting you. Does he respond in a positive way based on how you respond? For example, if you stick up for yourself does he back off or does it make him worse? Is there any way to predict his outbursts? <<hugs>> |
Thanks ChipmunkGal. Let me 1st say he and I are completely different communicators - he yells, swears, insults and I remain calm. If I'm the least bit assertive it makes him worse. He would prefer me to be a cowaring mouse. I don't yell or swear.He comes from an abusive home situation - his father used to beat his kids and wife. No he's not abusive physically but if I were to push anything beyond being respectfully assertive, I think he could be. He threatens me with poverty all the time. I've know him since I was 18 and too bad I was naive...didn't know to pay attention to the warning signs.
This is why I encourage young women like you to get out of your relationship before you have kids because it never gets better. We're room mates living in the same house. I don't know why he stays and I feel like a modern day prisoner. My only chance at freedom is if he dies before I do - sorry to sound so pessimistic.
It's either live in poverty on welfare or live like this. Thank you for your concern ChipmunkGal.
