Thank you Eskie for sharing your story and encouragement...thanks also to unico and thine.

When I say we argued - it wasn't me blowing up but he certainly did - I was just moderately assertive but calm. I think he has extreme psychological issues - I wonder is he's narcisistic and even think moderatley psychopathic.

It got worse 2 weeks ago when we had a snow storm. It was a SUnday and I went out to shovel the snow. Instead of shoveling the whole driveway and side walk he thinks it's fine to do 2 trenches for the tires of the car - I did that. Theres a public mailbox on the boulevard and I was being nice shoveling around that. My oldest came out and said you better come in because he's mad. I walk in to hear him ranting at the top of lungs upstairs (in his room), even before I was in the door about how stupid I am to risk my life shoveling around the mailbox - saying I could have a heart attack. I know he doesn't care about me speicifically, just worried about the kids being motherless. Most of his rant was while I was outside - totally pointless if I can't hear him. What bothered me was my kids heard him. He carried on like that, while I was outside. I told him I always do the mailbox and his rant is more likely to cause me a heart attack than me shovelling the snow.

Ever since that blow up, things have been bad. We have only one car, the other one needs $3000 repair we don't have. I had to drive him to work so I could have the car today and he was nasty the whole way. Things are bad financially and I haven't been able to get what I normally would for groceries, plus he stops to get them. That's adding to the strain too. When he's mad he loses all common sense and he's in a different world. My only comfort is one day Karma will catch up with him. Sadly it's a competition in my head...whos' going to out live the other.