You can get new stuff-- buy a new laptop, get new ids. But it is ******** that your family is not willing to let you pick this stuff up.

(Really? I mean, really???)

I would suggest playing this one "soft." Deep down, everyone yearns for reconciliation. Especially harsh and judgmental families with strict rules about mental health issues. My family has cut me off more than once, just for having issues that fall outside their designated "zone" of ok family members. Go back and be what they need you to be, until you get your stuff back.. I know it sucks but it works.

They probably miss you more than they let on.