Carmen,
I strongly suggest finding somewhere where you feel you are getting support. From my experience with my father and ex husband I can relate that it is just hell. It's one thing to have to deal with problems but when the "problem" is not even in his normal state of mind it's next to impossible. He needs help but with amost addictions the person has to come to that conclusion themself. I would highly recommend going to an alanon meeting. It is a part of Alocoholics anonymos (AA) but it is for the family (and friends) of alcoholics. It helped me alot to understand some of the things he did and why and also some ofthe things I did to support him in his problem. It's a good way to get tips on what you can do in situations and also is great support. It can also give you help to get him sober if he so chooses. You can find them in your phone book, they are all over the country. If they don't list Alanon then just call AA and they can help you. I know it will help you.
Hang in there hon!!
Heidu