Sounds like you are getting good advice from everyone, Daicy. My mother was also a screamer--I made my own way in life without her help, and later formed a good, although superficial relationship with her. We can tell each other, "I love you" and mean it, but we don't discuss really serious issues well. She is limited in her abilities to do so. Me, I'm quite skilled. You will be just fine, in the end, dear, if you follow the advice above and avoid issues with your mother; share them with your dad.