((((((SS, Sunset, Sundog)))))), I so appreciate your sentiments so artfully expressed. My reading is slow, and trying to organize my thoughts is like "herding cats", as they say. I want to respond to what I've read and was so moved by, but wanted to send along a quicker "thank you" first. It was a very difficult day, a lot of tears, but I'm calmer now. Two anniversaries of loss, one day after the next is a lot, but I look forward to increasing light. About meditating in chairs, a teacher told us that "enlightenment can be found in chairs" too.