I'm telling everyone this because if there's something that's a sore spot to you (doesn't necessarily have to be sex related), and you REALLY trust your T and feel comfortable with him or her, just let it out. Tell them what's going on. You deserve to be heard and validated. This stuff is so deeply personal and here is your opportunity to let go. If you can't say it, write it down. Nothing but good things will happen if you tell T. And trust me—I am one of the most closed books on the planet. I am "the listener" in ALL of my relationships, except my therapeutic one. I was proven wrong on what the outcome would be and how sharing that stuff would make me feel afterwards.