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Originally Posted by sunsetsunrise
Dear SS, thank you for that amazing story of your night. I think, from my perspective you described walking through resistance.... this time with cognition. I do believe that when we walk through things with cognition, it is a very healing process. From what I read you perfectly described the resistance you were experiencing. Resistance to mindfulness, grounding and using the tools you know you have. But it seems to me that you were conscious during the resistance. I think thats excellent. So from where I sit, I am sorry that you had a difficult night, but congratulations on having been so conscious of your process. And also, in the end you chose to ground and meditate. You did it !!!! Thank you for the graphics. they are really cewl.
Laviee, thank you for the link. I, for one, will check it out.
Sending hugs ( or reverent bowing)for you all, including wonderful sundog whose name i did not type until now. Blessings for all you wonderful souls !!!!!
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I love what you write here ((((((SunSun)))) And I loved what you wrote earlier about finding the candle and realizing it was close to your Dad's Birthday
I totally agree that there is a big difference between consciously resisting and blindly resisting. Especially if the conscious resistance gives way to a positive choice in the end. Which is what happened with ss and it was wonderful to read.
It reminds me of something I read in a book called Buddha's Brain by Rick Hanson (which I recommend to anyone who is interested) The book is about neuroscience and specifically how certain practices - including meditation - can alter our brain structure.
Anyhow, somewhere in the book the author talks about 4 stages of healing or personal growth when it comes to inner conflict and wanting to make the wrong choices.
The first stage is is what the author calls "Unconscious Incompetence". This is where you don't even realize you're making the wrong choice. In other words, it's the opposite of mindfulness.
The second stage is what the author "Conscious Incompetence". This is where you're still stuck in the pattern of making the wrong choice, but at least you realize it.
Stage 3 is what he calls "Conscious Competence". That's where you're still struggling, but you manage to utilize certain skills, for example mindfulness, and that pulls you back from making the wrong choice.
And, finally, stage 4 is "Unconscious Competence". This is where it comes naturally to you to do the right thing for yourself, without even having to think about it.
I'm still in stage 2......It's time for me to kick it up a notch! What ss described tonight was definitely Stage 3! Yay!!
Love to all!