@ ladyjrnlist- We did couples counseling before we got married 8 years ago! We have also done it recently. But we had to stop due to not having enough money to pay all the therapists and doctors. My son has Tourettes, OCD, ADHD, ODD and bipolar. This is the biggest "tension" in our marriage beside our financial issues. I know we are supposed to put ourselves first, but I feel like we have to get help for my son. So, we had to stop going to therapy. We did talk about this at one time because he made me so frustrated with it. But apparently our session didn't have long term meaning for him. These are the things I would like for him to focus on and talk about. I think I will point out the being talked "at" as that is a good way to look at it. I've just been ignoring him pretty much. We've both been really busy lately anyway.