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Originally Posted by lynn P.
When I was young and naive, I believed in the concept of 'soul mate'. I thought I found one, but it turns out I was dead wrong and now I wonder about the concept for the same reasons Byz mentioned. I think as young women some of us become enthralled in the 'fairlytale idea' of partnership.
The concept of finding a soul mate is a daunting concept. It's full of great expectations and pressures.....how does a person find the 'perfect fit' to be called the 'soul mate'. I also wonder how much is, realistic expectations and does this essentially doom us, in the end.
I wish I could beleive in it, but due to what's happened in my life the last 4 yrs, I wonder and feel quite pessimistic about relationships. Eventually the fireworks dicipate and we have to ask ourselves, what's left and is it good enough to keep going.
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Hi lynn, I think hunting or searching for one's soul mate would no doubt add pressure to the whole process, and the hope is one would happen upon him or her while looking for a mate, in an act of pseudo-cosmic serendipity. I have to be careful about my phrasing here, as I don't believe in preordained existences, as I've said in a few other posts in this thread!
What I'd said in my response to sundog fits here too, as I believe the honeymoon phase of the relationship may be the true domain of the soul mate, who ideally progresses into a life partner with a lot of hard work, attention to detail, willingness, communication, and acceptance. My soul mates (two, at different times) were imperfect guys with much to offer. Funny thing is, they were nothing like each other, but both of them clicked with me.
I am sorry for the relationship travails you have been and are facing, lynn.
I hope you are able to find suitable resolutions and happiness. You are such a lovely, caring person in and around all the neighborhoods of PC, and I hope some of that goodness boomerangs its way to you in short order.