((((((((((((lynn))))))))))))

I only saw this thread now, so please forgive my late reply. I am terribly sorry you are facing such a difficult time with your husband, and that he is being uncooperative, disrespectful, and downright mean. I hope you are able to find a means of resolving this untenable situation before your girls are grown, so the three of you may live the peaceful, harmonious lives you obviously deserve. Is there anyone in your family or among your friends on whom you could rely should you choose to leave?

I know you as a kind, intelligent, altruistic, caring, empathetic person, to say the least. If you display a fraction of these qualities in real life, where I'm sure you actually shine much brighter than here, your husband should be grateful and thrilled to have you. I am sorry for his myopia, and that you and your girls must suffer because of it, and so much more of his negativity, I'm sure.

My heart goes out to you, lynn--I am keeping you in my thoughts. Again, may you find a way out of this emotionally deleterious situation sooner than later. Sending you lots of extra courage, strength, resolve, and tenacity. Also sending tons of hugs and positive feelings and thoughts.