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Mar 05, 2011, 06:53 AM
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Member Since: Jun 2007
Location: Chicago, Illinois
Posts: 5,518
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Originally Posted by LovebirdsFlying
I'm sorry your son is looking down on you. It is wrong for him to think himself "better" than someone else, because he is more financially well-off.
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My son doesn't feel he is better than me or my husband, I just hear him repeating the same old rhetoric about Chicago and the South Side. He's bought into the idea that this is supposedly a horrible place to live - a city of gangsters and trash. He doesn't realize there are hustlers and schemers everywhere. He doesn't realize a fancy new car, home or fat wallet will NOT guarantee happiness.
When I say "look down," I'm referring to the lectures he feels entitled to give me. He'll take a class on nutrition and talk to a few experts, then tell ME what I'm supposed to eat - based on the class he took. That's fine - but don't tell ME what to put in my stomach because his professor does NOT know ME or my stomach. I may not have a degree in nutrition, but I have over 50 years of experience with food - and I come from a long line of eaters and cooks, lol. I've seen many trends/diets/nutritional advice come and go. I've never had a problem with weight or poor nutrition - thanks to me and the nutrition I provided him, neither has he. STILL, because I have no college degree or other official form of credentials, I'm never taken seriously by anyone.
What I don't understand is all the jealously, like you are experiencing. When my son comes home with a fancy new phone or gadget with all the bells and whistles, I secretly roll my eyes. I do so because all I see are all the things that will probably go wrong. The more complicated the item, the harder it is to fix. Once a person becomes accustomed to having only the best of something, it only makes it that much harder to do without.
A dear friend of mine just bought his big beautiful luxurious dream home. I'm blown away by the photos and his description of the home - it sounds like paradise. It is something he has talked about and dreamed about for as long as I've known him. Am I jealous of him? HELL NO!!! I'm thrilled for him!
Just think of how much better friends and family members would get along if we weren't so jealous of each other. It would be nice if we viewed and valued each others "ladders to success" in a more equal and respectful way. Maybe then we wouldn't all be fighting to climb the same ladder.
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