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Mar 05, 2011, 01:28 PM
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Member Since: Feb 2011
Posts: 33
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Originally Posted by Miss Laura
Thanks Joy1010,
I know as a Mother you probably side with my Mum on the whole staying in bed scenario. I think I have referred to her and I's relationship being "stormy" in a post to you. I am no angel and have never proclaimed to be. We rub eachother up the wrong way ALL the time.
Laura - I can understand why your mum may not like you in bed all the time... I once felt like that before I realized my daughter had an illness. Now, she doesn't live with me, but if she did, and that happened still, I think I would have to accept that wanting to stay in bed and withdraw is part of the depression cycle. I don't agree with telling her 'to cheer up" because I don't beleve it is as easy as that.
Wednesday afternoon when I came home from my meeting all I wanted was my Mum to come over and hug me. She never did. I do not like physical contact and this is prob the reason.
This made me think of how many times did my daughter just want a hug? Thank you for the insight. (see you are even helping me now while you are in a low spot yourself)
Thursday evening my friend gave me a card and on the front cover it says "This is a hug...." and shows a bear holding his arms out for hugging. Inside says "It's here when you need it" and she wrote "To Laura, just to let you know that whatever happens we all love you! Remember you are amazing and sometimes I think we forget to tell you just how great a friend you are, this is to remind you! Lots of Hugs(even though you will not readily accept them, haha!!) Katriona xxx p.s. your beautiful when you smile  "
What a beautiful thing to do  Glad that had a positive impact on you!
I cried and still am reading it. I texted her and said I will cherish it and that I will put it in with my mood diary so if I need a hug I can get it there.
I don't know why I can't take physical contact from someone but can take a massage.... I am a freak see!!! Not a freak,, everyone is different... we are all unique
Joy, I hope as a Mother you can see being here isn't easy no matter what and who you are. I want my Mum to just hug me, but I don't want to ask for it. She asks me if I am ok and I always reply "Ye fine" as what's the point... I get lectured on "cheering" up and getting on with my life. You are right, this is not easy. I guess that's why we are all here supporting each other. Last night my daughter came to visit... quite late at night... she was quite agitated and irritable so mostly I just listened to her.... she went outside for a smoke and was out there a while, so I thought she wanted time alone.. I was getting tired.. it was after midnight and I'd had a long day at work... so I went to bed. When she came back in, she was annoyed that we went to bed. She left at about 1am to 'walk" back home - which is not terribly far, but far enough .... maybe a 20 minute walk if you walk fast.... when i woke up this morning the most bizarre thing - she had re-arranged all the things that were on tables -- and put them neatly on the floor -- she did this in two rooms of the house... i didn't get the impression she was throwing things around in anger... it was more like 'she didn't want them elevated on tables or counters... so placed them neatly on the floor'.. have you ever heard of anything like that???
Sorry this kinda sounds like a rant and it's not meant to be!!
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Rant away!! I seem to be doing the same I am just trying to understand her and her illness as best I can so I can help her and learn how to interact better with her. I believe she was up all night on her computer at home. Is the irritability/anger/unable to sleep mean a manic stage is comng/ is here?
Back to you -- I hope you start to feel better soon - you have been so helpful and try to learn things from you!!
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