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I tend to be very quiet and reserved and try to help people and be friendly too. But I find that most people want to use and abuse me and not really give back. I tend to not be able to tell people how I really feel till I`ve had enough and I`m ready to cus folks out.
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I have found working on boundaries really helps with this, both with the relationships and my reactions. I don't like that word, boundaries, because it sounds like it's supposed to keep people out... I just think of it as putting a dam on a river.. it still flows, but you have a bit more control over it. Melody Beattie's Codependent No More has some great suggestions.