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Originally Posted by Suratji
Wow, that's exactly what I'm going through now. My appt. with T is next Friday and I've agreed to share my secret but I keep having second thoughts. All of those emotions are in my body -fear of judgment, rejection, loneliness, shame, embarrassment. I was even thinking today that by revealing am I adding fuel to the fire?
I discussed it with my T. Told her that once it's out I can never go back. That she will despise me. She assured me that she wouldn't. Then she asked if anyone else in the world had done such a thing. I said, sure - but that's them, not me.
But, I believe now, with my study of buried emotions, that it is the healthy thing to do - share with my T. Also, the latest issue of the magazine Shambala Sun has some wonderful articles that really hit home to me in their March issue. Thich Nhat Hanh writes about how to heal the wounded child within us. Pema Chodron talks about fear. Both articles have been very helpful to me as I face self-disclosure and all the emotions that will rise up.
Good insight you have there.
I know I would never be able to share in group.
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(((( HUGS )))))
I have shared with my T some of my secrets, and in the safety of my relationship with T, he still sees me as someone he likes, admires, cares for....which is HUGE for me - and actually causes all sorts of issues/feelings for me as well. That's a different chapter.
I would not want you to be deterred from sharing, as I know that it's an important part of therapy and of the growth of the relationship.
My current fears are disclosing such huge things to others who are perhaps more judgmental, less empathetic, less sensitive, etc....in essence, not my T...vaery, very scary to me.
At some point in my life, I hope to be at a place where I am so content and ok with myself that the reactions of others wouldn't be important at all...