OK. We went to one session of counseling. She is OK with going to more, another is scheduled in 2 weeks.

I've read "5 Love Languages" she just started it. I think this book could help thousands of marriages. After understanding where each of us are coming from I hope the counselor can give us direction on how to connect better. We weren't ignoring each other we weren't talking the same language! I was trying, she was trying but neither of us knew.

It looks like we are both willing to put in some effort and try to save things.

I know I have trust issues, don't know if or when they'll go way. I'm sure she does too.

We are not out of the woods by any means but we have professional help, we got some family involved and we are still talking and trying to keep communication lines open.