Dear LMo,

Thank you so much for understanding and the sharing of your past situation and the frustration I am feeling.

We briefly sought therapy and I remember the therapist explaining to my boyfriend (just as you put it) that I am feeling like the "outsider" and why I feel this way. My boyfriend just doesn't get it and, you know? he will always defend his kids as long as he feels I am nitpicking. And they will always defend him against me (because they are devoted to only him). The younger son (19) came up to visit for the holidays and caught us in an argument and saw the tears in my eyes as I said I cant' live like this. He replied, "Are you going to be all right?" and gave me a hug and said he was sorry. He's such a sweetheart. A funny thing is my boyfriend doesn't even like to discipline them! Although he does try only when he feels like it. So maybe there is some hope.

Your suggestion in finding a support group is a good one. I am going to look into it. Thanks again for your support.

Warmly,
UBF