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Originally Posted by Sapphire_90
I know that an official diagnosis can’t be given here but I’d still like to get some other people’s opinions on how serious these problems I’m having might be.
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However "serious" they are or aren't on someone's diagnostic scale, it sounds like they're getting in your way and you'd like to get them sorted out -- though right now you may not be looking forward much to the actual sorting.
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I don’t want to visit a therapist for diagnosis unless I’m absolutely sure things are that serious...
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I would think that a diagnosis would be more for insurance purposes (or to comply with clinic policy) than because it was key to relieving your problems. I had a couple of years of therapy (years ago, admittedly) and as far as I know, I never was diagnosed.
Does your school have a health clinic or counseling center? That sounds like a likely place to start. They could tell you what your most promising treatment options would be and where (on campus or in the neighborhood) you might be able to find them.
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I’m writing this on a day where I’m feeling sort of optimistic about all this, that maybe I would be able to get better communication skills, better self esteem and maybe even a few close relationships if I found some sort of help. I’m also starting to get worried that I will be a complete failure in the workplace because of all these problems. I’d like to get an idea of how serious all this...
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When I was a kid, I was often afraid of dogs. Someone must've explained to me that I should never show a dog I was afraid because if I did, it would want to come after me. So there I'd be, walking past the dog thinking,
"Don't let it find out I'm afraid, don't let it find out I'm afraid, has it figured out I'm afraid yet? Is it going to come after me? Don't let it find out I'm afraid!" 
The dogs never told me what they were thinking but looking back on it, I suspect it must've been something like,
"What's with that kid?
Why is he acting like that?
Must not belong here. Should I chase him away?
Grrrrr!" It sounds to me as if you might be having a dialogue like that about yourself. The more you worry that there might be something wrong with you, especially something that other people will notice, the more anxious you're going to feel, the more mistakes you'll make, the more strained you'll act -- and the more of your own
and other people's attention you'll attract. I'd guess that the better you get at accepting yourself just the way you are and letting yourself be, the better you'll be able to get along without therapy --
and the easier it'll be for you to participate in therapy and benefit from it, if you do go that route.
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...please let me know what you think.
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I think you communicate very clearly when you let yourself, but you're inclined to be a bit hard on yourself.
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