Hi Jasmina,

I'm sorry you are facing such ridiculous and unfortunate circumstances, especially at a time that ideally should be filled with happiness and excitement as you bond with your new daughter (mazel tov!). Your ex's childish machinations are inappropriate and downright preposterous, and offer you a glimpse of your future with him should you go head and marry him. Please let me ask you a few questions:

When he dangles his other relationships/liaisons in front of you, do they really make him seem more appealing as a life partner?

Do you want to potentially spend the rest of your life with a man who raped you in your sleep while pregnant during a time he purported to want to care for you?

Is this man going to be a decent father figure for your daughter? Do you want your daughter exposed to the whirlwind of drama this guy whips up everywhere he goes?

Don't go to California with your infant daughter. Stay at your mom's and cultivate a safe, loving environment for you and your daughter there for the time being. You and your child's safety and well-being take precedence over your ex's game-playing. Time will tell whether or not he has sincere intentions toward you, but based on what you've offered here, I wouldn't bet on it.

Sorry, Jasmina. Best of luck to you.