I've struggled with this some myself!!

I, and my younger parts, often have asked my T "why" or "how come". Most often she says, "Well, it just is what it is, I don't question it".

Dang... I/we do!!! We come from very insecure attachment bases. We didn't get the luxury of just being able to take things as they are. We were raised to be suspicious and questioning. Finally, we find someone safe enough to ask "why" to (in regard to relationship) and it's not that she says "don't ask", but that I don't *need* to ask. It just is.

Yeah... I can't say it's not frustrating.

((((PTSD))))