Unfortunately, I don't think he has really changed or ever will. He is controlling and manipulative. Don't let the desire to have a "family" for your baby outweigh the need for safety and security. In terms of the sex during sleep, if you didn't consent (which you couldn't, because you were asleep) then it is rape IMO. While I don't want to tell you what to do, I can tell you I have many regrets for marrying young. I was pregnant and wanted my child to have a "complete family". The deeper into this you get, the harder it will be to get out. Utilize the support you have (your mom). And I think your instincts might be telling you that this needs to be over with - sorry if that sounded harsh. Hang in there and keep us posted!