Madisgram, good points, and I would add, just as a reminder, that in your son's hearing I would refrain from speaking at all about them, good or ill. How old is he? Do you have decent relations with ANY one in you family which prevent you from simply cutting off connections and letting yourself heal? Is there some way that you can agree with this person not to bring up the brother's and sister's problems, so that you aren't talking about them there either? It seems the less said about and done with these folks, the better. Hugggs.