Cats, yes. I have a lot of developmental issues in my relationship with T.

Believing that I only exist to her when I'm with her (object permanency?).
Her consistent behaviour being more important to me than her consistent feelings (can only read feelings from behaviour)
I could go on (and on and on!!)...

I often say to T "I wish I could be your baby and be allowed to do x and y and z with you". And everytime I hear myself, I'm shocked. I'm not even a little girl... I'm a baby in these wishes. Even her 2.5 year old daughter is leaving me behind...