I'm sorry I don't know where to post this but since depression is one of my conditions, i decided to do it here. I also don't know if this is abuse. I wish they had a dysfunctional family forum.

This is about my mom and me. Frankly, I'm just sick of her blaming me for EVERYTHING in the house, her life, everywhere. This is because I live with her and I'm always with her when she needs to talk. But the thing is, if I even give advice and she doesn't "like" the advice, then I'm stupid.

She's having a very stressful situation thats not related to me, but she keeps taking that stress out on me and I just can't take it anymore. I have enough stress of my own. My parents don't support my career (want to be an actor), so I'm going at it solo, I have to get all the support from within me. I try very hard to be strong. This extra stress from her is just so unnecessary in my life right now.

I don't have close friends either, that stresses me, I feel like I have problems having bf/gf relationships and probably wont' find a husband I want, that stresses me.

If I'm talking to her about HER problems, or even mine, I automatically start getting anxiety, I just don't know at what point she will start yelling at me and calling me stupid. Sometimes she doesn't even clearly tell the whole problem, she misses chunks of it, and for me being the outsider to the problem, I ask for clarifications to get the whole story down, she starts yelling at me.

She even blames me for her actions with her own problem. For example, She'll yell "FINE! i'll do that but then xyz will happen,then don't get on me. I'm doing what you want". But the truth is, its not what i want, it was just a suggestion for solving HER problem. Then she'll say I give her lots and lots of stress and I told her it wasn't me, it was her situation. Then she said I'm aggressive and no one can communicate with me, I'm this I'm that, etc etc.. and then she walks out yelling.

I just don't know what to do with the situation and also with my emotions. I've reached peak, CANNOT TAKE IT.

Then if i get angry, she says I'm thankless, so very thankless for what she does for me, I dont get financial support but yes she does make me tea in the morning, and does small things for me. I appreciate that but does that mean I need to be her punchbag to show that I appreciate it??

I also do small things for her, like make Her tea when she's tired and other things. I've adjusted my sleeping schedule for her. I sleep from 12 pm to 8 pm in the day just so she can sleep in the night because I can't sleep when she snores so I completely changed my schedule due to which I couldn't lead a normal life, I couldn't step out of the house for 6 months. I can't do that anymore either.

If i tell her I also do things for you, she says "what things? so what? you made me tea once? big deal (it wasn't just once, its almost daily), what I do for you you don't even realize".

UGH. please help.

My mother does do lots of small things for me but isn't that what she's supposed to do? she's my mother, I also do things for her but i dont feel the need to constantly state them all the time.. , but her not being able to address the stress at the right person and using me as a punchbag, i just can't take it anymore. its too much for me.