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Old Mar 07, 2011, 11:34 AM
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Thankyou everyone for the suggestions, I will definitely try them all.

To respond to all the questions, I am 27 and yes I will be moving out soon. My parents house was a temporary stopover that was supposed to last maximum 1 month, but now its been 6 months and I'm still here, waiting to relocate.
That is another stressful situation. I moved to another country and here, getting an apartment is terrible work, for this I need my uncle and mom to help me out and me and my mom have been depending on my uncle and I was supposed to have moved to another city in Jan, but my uncle went out of the country and then just kept delaying it. Even now, we bought the tickets and everything and now he says he wants to change the date AGAIN. It really sucks because if i could do this alone, i would have gone long ago... and he changes his mind like everyday and that is very stressful.

Also, about my mother, Idk I sometimes feel very bad for her, maybe I suck up her feelings, not sure. I can understand she's stressed and she also takes care of my ill dad, and he was always emotionally and verbally abusive to her throughout my whole life, and to me as well. So, sometimes i don't know how to feel. When I get stressed with her using me as her punchingbag, my first emotion is stress for how she treats me and then my second emotion is more stress for how she feels and for how her life has been.

Like I know she also wants me to move out and start my work, but then she will shift between "Why aren't you married?? why are you doing this?" and "yeah, okay go try your dream" and "what are you doing with your life? why're you doing this to yourself? everyone is married at your age, you're not, when will you get married? the other day xyz was also saying why aren't you married, blah blah blah".

I've been hearing the marriage stuff since I was 19. Infact, my family stressed me out so much that I believed that I would never get married. Now I really think maybe I wont. They'd say If you dont do it now, you won't get married, look we foudn you a guy, he's got a good job, just say yes, otherwise you'll stay single all your life. For 7 years of my life i was so stressed i thought I just had to find someone and get married or when i get old I won't have anyone. THis also strained my relationships.

Now, I'm just emotioned-out. period. now, I don't even want to hear the word "marriage" eventhough I do want it so badly some day but I don't have anyone to marry, so how do i get married?? But yet, I have to hear everyone in my family ***** about how I'm not married.