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Originally Posted by notablackbarbie
The accident report shows that you crashed because you weren't paying attention or being realistic.
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It sounds to me as if the biggest risk for
you is that you'll get distracted from watching the road -- into either hoping you won't have an accident, or beating yourself up for being a bad driver.
"Being realistic" is a term that people tend to apply to many widely different attitudes and activities, not all of which are even compatible with each other. You can easily get so busy "being realistic" about what a bad driver you are and how likely you are to get into an accident, that you don't even notice you're drifting into the wrong lane. To me it seems more "realistic" to ignore for the time being whether I'm a good driver or a bad one so that there'll be more of me present and available for actually driving the car.
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You are punished - judgement, rage, rejection, ripple effect, shame and guilt. You learn to prevent making a mess in any way because all that happened is YOUR FAULT AND YOU ARE BAD, STUPID, SCREWED UP.
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In that case, back to my earlier question:
How do you know that?
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THe logical solution after failing too many times and being bad in too many ways is to just stop.
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Well, yeah, but how do you decide
what to stop? You seem to be thinking in terms of "don't do anything any more" while I'm pulling for "stop judging yourself". Hey, I know one way to resolve this:
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This same mindset above can't and shouldn't be used on another 4 year old who just so happens to be dumping out all lego pieces and blocks to find the green train with silver stripe because that train works the best on the "curvy peices (tracks), see!". This same mindset can't and shouldn't be used on a 7 year old who's been told not to share snacks because of allergy concerns because that child helped make 3 muffins being broken into pieces and passed around to everyone ("I helped pick the blueberries when i went shopping with mommy and daddy and then i added chocolate chips and then they melted. Thats why its all swirly brown and blue!"). This same mindset can't and shouldn't be used on a 14 year old because the eyerolling is telling you that they are bored, don't need to be lectured or patronized, and are wondering when will they get a chance to respond...
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I have an idea! I have an idea!!
Why... don't you... treat yourself... as if you were one of those kids!
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But i am a hypocrite. And full of s#!t. Selfish and foolish. Disgusting and repulsive. Pointless and worthless with all the mess I've created and all the mess i am... 
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WATCH THE ROAD, WATCH THE ROAD!!!