I definitely can identify with voidofcourse and Melita... and splitimage, I'm in the preparation stage of starting EMDR... I was going to suggest it as a therapy option before I read your post.
I am so very hopeful that the EMDR will be helpful for me. I wish some hope for you as well. The only other thing that has restored some of my hope is the law of attraction or "The Secret" The way this works is imagining that your life is already the way you want it.