i think it's more accurate to say that nothing was ever quite good enough. and that more weight was given to what was not done well than to what was done well, ie, more negative than positive. this combined with the knoweldge that if we did not do well, we would be intensely disapproved of

everything was ok unless i screwed up and then people acted like the world was coming to an end

that put the fear of god in me. anyway. blah!