This sort of "play" if YOU want to term it play...is at the very least passive aggressive...minus the passive.I do not know of any healthy adult who would teasingly throw a gatorade bottle at a childs head.Or,squeeze a child...even playing....so hard they can't breathe? What difference does it make if he thinks he is joking? You said....."He torments kids".....What grown man conceives of such a thing? This is like the guy who begins to abuse his gf with a "God can you do anything right?"...or a stern grab of the shoulder to get her attention.Soon it is grabbing her by the hair.Once a person breaches healthy barriers....I think the chance of things reverting to normalicy are slim.The fact that he ever thought to do such a thing,in my mind...disqualifies him of a position in your life...c'mon...you lost your kids???????? & you are still with him????? & and he is just a boyfriend????? Is your name Linda? My mums name was Linda....ughhhh