I "suppose" its the culture. i'm not sure because I have seen famililies where no one is supposed to abuse each other, yet they still maintain the elder younger hierarchy.

And amusingly, my famliy is supposed to be a more "modern" open minded and we are more open minded than others I have noticed when it comes to race and other cultures.

These six months that I spent with my parents, I have described to my mother how the whole family and how they treat me has affected me and I think she's seeing more clearly now. In the Past whenever I'd speak against anyone, she'd invalidate it probably because she was in denial and she didn't want me to be alone, she still doesn't like that I am alone but atleast now she acknowledges what they do.

In the past, my sister also used to say "but mom I didn't do that! that wasn't my intention, she's my sister! i would never do that to her.. " It was a lie. I just don't fall for her lies anymore when she says "im her sister" but then treats me like crap.
I am really angry at my uncle. i feel like he broke my trust, I did not expect this from him. He saw what she was doing to me and then when I lost it he blamed it on me and said I was out of control and that my mom needs to keep me in control. Am I right with feeling angry at him for this? I sort of feel betrayed in a weird way. Some of the things he says are instigating as well.

He first said to my sister be nice to me because tomorrow if i become successful I won't look at her (which I already don't because i dont like her). Thats when she got furious and was like "well she already doesnt want me to visit" and i said "no i dont. you're not nice to me why should i?". and thats really how it all started.

She has lied to my uncle about me and amplified things that weren't really there. Do i do something about this like explain to him or leave it? During the fight when I was explaining it to him, he kept invalidating me. INfact things that I said about her, he said NO she couldnt have done that. I don't believe that. When my mom also takes my side, he ignores her thinking she's naive and under MY influence. Should I do something about this? can i do anything about this? or do i just leave it and take all the blame like i always have. I suppose I'd be the scapegoat of the family.

She instigates me to the point of where I cannot think anymore and I lose it then she turns around and says toeveryone "see how she's (in reference to me) behaving?? what did i do to deserve this??!" thats when everyone turns around on me and pounces on me. THATS HOW ITS ALWAYS HAPPENED SINCE I WAS 4.

What i dont understand is why is it always me?? Why does everyone always pounce on me? Am i doing something wrong or is there a sign on my forehead that says "come abuse me?" Why am I running accross abusive and manipulative people all the time??

And i hate it when people ask me how many siblings I have and who I'm closest to the most.