I often feel like my husband and I are only together for our daughter. We both love her deeply and want what's best for her, and we're good at parenting as a couple.

But we have sex about once a YEAR now, and not only that, but to get any sort of affection out of him is like heavy labor. One time he didn't kiss me right away when I tried to kiss him, and I said "why do I have to work so hard to get a kiss?" Then a few minutes later, he accidentally dropped a Hershey's kiss on the floor, and then pushed me aside so I couldn't get it....to which I said again - "why do I have to work so hard for a kiss?" and he just laughed.

I know my mental issues wear on him a lot. He has supported me through a lot of crap, and that means a lot. But sometimes I wonder if he just feels obligated to help me.

I can already see what's going to happen to us. 12 years from now our daughter will go off to college, and we will probably wind up divorced. If not sooner. But without her in our lives, we have no purpose. Our lives revolve around her.

When I brought up the suggestion of an exotic cruise or trip to Hawaii for our 10th anniversary - in 2015 - if I keep the weight off (in the middle of losing 100 pounds), his first suggestion was a Disney Cruise, and bring our then 10 year old daughter along with. That wasn't my idea...

I do love him, and at times I can tell he loves me. But it's brother-sister love. Not lover love.

How do we get it back?