Thank you so much for your kind words and advice. I made an appointment for myself with a therapist for tomorrow. I know I need to take care of myself, but am having a hard time doing it. My husband and I do have a trip planned for the end of April, kind of far away I know. He is working on being able to leave his comfort zone with his therapist. He experiences panic when we go away from home. He has done it and with sucess in the past, so I know he will again. She is just working with him on some new coping strategies. So I do have that to look forward to. Boundaries are def something that we need. It's just very hard to break old habits. Thanks again.